Some of us realize what’s going on and boast to have found a solution to fool the system: relationships they don’t get emotionally involved. To totally giving up to the so called ‘steady relationships’ is only a small step. The next evolutionary step is defined by the ‘just for fun’ kind of people; for them pleasure is the only God that governs their existence and they adopt a lifestyle without ethics or morals (that because it guarantees their freedom to unlimited pleasure).

I come back to the mechanism of the desire for love. And we will discover how we fool ourselves over and over again. We can also learn how to avoid the above mentioned sorry full description. The mistake we make is to take love for feeling. This unmistakably creates great confusion in our mind. Feeling such as: attraction, admiration, friendship, even weakness, can generate something that can be taken for love. Inevitably we make the choices that lead us astray.

Love is actually action, concrete facts, decision without the possibility for revocation, the commitment in each morning to help, encourage, sometimes warn the person we love. The courage of saying I love you is even bigger than that of saying yes when we get married. This is because true love is not defined by how many times you say you love me honey-bunny, or by how many times you say you are sorry for repeating the same mistake or how many times you buy something nice.

I am the one who decide to love you, and it is a solemn promise to respect you, to sacrifice myself for you without thinking twice, to be there when you are nasty, selfish, angry, depressed, sick, or distant. Because that is of the essence when time are bad. Because difficult moments will come…it is only a matter of time!!!

There is no perfect person for us in this world!! We may search far and wide, but for no avail. And the quicker we accept this the more we gain and avoid even more useless suffering.

There are people that think of love as I’ve written it, but do we see them? And if we see them, would we accept them? …or would we consider them unconscious, naive, inexperienced children. I’ve just presented how we can build and maintain a happy relationship! Would you say yes to it? Cause I don’t know how I would answer anymore…

The fear of the unknown is the most terrible for human beings. We simply freeze in those moments and even rational thinking becomes impossible. Everything around us happens to fast for us all of a sudden and there is no time to react. It is in those moments when our destiny is decided and not many things are helpful then, because time appears too short and we will not face that specific contingency again. But actually because we become conscious of these things we may find a great advantage: I can transform myself into that person that has come to know good from evil, what we can do and what we should avoid, but also I must be able to sort what is of the essence and what can be delayed. Many would say only a man with a lot of academic knowledge is able to do it, or a leader born with those qualities.

The most important thing is to perfect our true humanity, our original mind given by our creator. Flee from selfishness, arrogance and indifference. This is the success key and I have found it from a woman of the humblest background: my big sys, who went to the spiritual world three weeks ago. Her way of being touched the hearts of all those who met her and a little bit of all of us died soon after she died; but this was only to remember us of the fact that not how many diplomas we get, how much wealth you own, or what kind of job we have define who we are.

Do you help people or do you humiliate them? Do you smile or just stay grumpy? Are you able to offer kind words to all other people or is it better they never bother you? Do you think and act only in your self interest or do you stop and think about others? The time we spend here on earth is so short that it is so much more valuable used by developing true human character rather than our super-human one. It is a natural course that needs to be walked step by step: in order to become super-humans, we must first learn what it means to be truly human. Life can throw many things at us (this we cannot change it), but we can learn what is the best attitude to face them (this is up to us).